"There is lots written about bereavement, a great deal with which I disagree, especially those that say time is a great healer."
There is lots written about bereavement, a great deal with which I disagree, especially those that say time is a great healer. I have met and helped people still effected 30, 40, even 50 years or more after the loss of a loved one.
On a personal level, I have experienced the loss of loved ones, including a brother, my father, and several grandparents. Of all the people I have lost, losing my grandfather in 1984 was the most difficult to process and until quite recently, I was still being deeply affected by his death.
So, what did I do to change how I felt about this loss from almost 37 years ago, well I enlisted the help of a therapist who I knew possessed similar skills to myself.
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Could hypnotherapy and the work I do with eye movement therapy be the answer?
Be assured, both personally and professionally, I understand grief and I have helped countless people to process and deal with these raw emotions. There are varying levels of advice when it comes to accessing any type of bereavement support and as a minimum, I would recommend waiting at least 6 months. I had other practitioners tell me the NICE (National Institute for Clinical Excellence) guidelines are 18 months, yet I have struggled to find this information when I have checked.
There will also, always be exceptions to any rule and an example of this would be where a client whose wife was involved in a fatal accident, and at the time of seeing me this tragic event had happened a month earlier. The individual was unconsciously self-harming and the reliving of traumatic events around this loss where in my opinion having a negative impact. In addition, they had travelled to the UK from Spain and were set to return soon after seeking me help.
Together we used eye movement therapy to resolve the issue and I made them aware that further work maybe required around these events due to the time elapsed between the event and therapy.
In short, I would recommend waiting at least 6 months and nearer 18 months before working upon issues that relate to bereavement, unless there are exceptional circumstances and on more the one occasion, I have felt a need to start work sooner.
Be aware that there are five key stages of grief. These are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Not everyone will go through each of the five stages, nor will they always present in that order, much depends on personal circumstance and the nature of the loss.
If you, a friend, work colleague or loved one is still impacted by any significant emotional event, including bereavement then I am well equipped to help.
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Why choose me to help?
Around 1% of UK Hypnotherapists complete an advanced hypnotherapy qualification and whilst I am unsure of the actual numbers within each professional body, and even less so overseas, I know that this is the case with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and within my membership of the General Hypnotherapy Register. I have made the effort and investment required to complete this next phase of my professional development and can call myself an Advanced Practitioner.
In studying for my Advanced Hypnotherapy Diploma (NQF 6), I was fortunate enough to study with ex-Sheffield Hallam University lecturer Doctor Paul Peace, Philosophy (PHD), Psychology, and Karen Bartle who holds a master’s degree in Health/Medical Psychology.
Throughout my career as a Hypnotherapist, I have been fortunate to study with people whom I consider to be some of the best in the business and in addition to studying with Karen and Paul, I trained with Matthew Ferguson and he has worked with Olympic athletes, Doctors and Psychiatrists to name but a few professions and he has over 25 years’ experience of Hypnosis and Clinical Hypnotherapy, and he also shared some fantastic knowledge and expertise with me.
I was also, fortunate enough to study with Nick Davies who created the BLAST Technique®
The studying I completed with Nick, sees me able to resolve negative memories through eye movement, and this is one of the most valuable skills I possess. I have studied numerous times with him and there are less than 50 Advanced BLAST Technique practitioner® in the world (3/2/21), of which I am one.
In short, I have an Advanced Diploma in Clinical Hypnotherapy, I am a Master Practitioner of Neuro-linguistic programming, a skilled eye movement therapist, a qualified Advanced BLAST Technique practitioner®, as well as also being a Motivation Therapist and Coach. I have helped thousands of people and I am confident that my help will positively make a difference, however, rather take my word for this, I would encourage you to read the reviews left by others, you can do this by clicking the link below.
So, if you are looking for a skilled hypnotherapist, with a wealth of experience in helping people to excel in their chosen discipline or field, then I recommend you get in touch, knowing that I can help wherever in the world you might be.